I realize that might sound a little strange but hang with me for a second.
From early on in life one of our first words uttered with force from our lips is “No!”
We all have seen “that” child with arms folded, pout painted on their face screaming “No,no,NO!!”
Chances are if we are honest with ourselves we can admit we have all been that child too.
Don’t believe me? Ask your mom.
It Doesn’t matter if it’s because your sandwich was cut the wrong way or are refusing to get back in the car.
Unless we can be convinced otherwise we have made up our mind and that’s that! But along the way something happened and slowly our “no’s” morph into “yes”.
It’s almost like we have been taught that it’s not ok to say “no”.
Yes, we have all had our feelings hurt by a negative reaction but has anyone ever died because of one? I have never,ever seen anyone drop dead because I have rejected their movie invite and I doubt you have either. sometimes I wonder if we are trying to protect ourselves from a negative reactions our “no”‘would bring even if deep down we feel like folding our arms across our chest, stomping our feet and screaming “no!” We find ourselves pulling out our calendars and hear yourself saying “yes”. What?!! We all do it in one form or another. Sometimes without even realizing it. Accepting invitations to events we really don’t want to go to or have the time to enjoy. Adding more work to an already tight schedule. Running to the store to grab something for someone else when we just got home and want to put our feet up and rest. You get the idea. Well, this summer I decided it’s o.k to say “no.” Continue reading